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The Lovers Society

Marissa Nelson

If intimacy feels complicated, distant, or far from effortless, The Lovers Society is for you.

Hosted by Marissa Nelson, award-winning relationship and sex therapist, this podcast explores intimacy as it shapes every part of our lives—from how we relate to money and nourish ourselves to how environment, hormones, and daily stress influence desire and connection.

Each episode invites you into real, grounded conversations that help you step out of performance and back into connection, at your own pace. This is intimacy rooted in emotional safety, self-trust, and choice, with the reminder that you are deserving of pleasure, even if you’ve felt disconnected from it for a long time.

If talking about sex feels hard
If intimacy and desire feels completely gone
If you love your partner and still feel the gap…

You’re not broken. And you’re not alone.

You’ll hear honest, thought-provoking conversations with leading experts, paired with practical tools and exercises you can use immediately to create meaningful change. Each week brings real stories and therapist-backed guidance to help you stop going through the motions and start feeling seen, supported, and genuinely turned on by your life again.

This is where intimacy moves from meh to meaningful, igniting a full-life reset through your most intimate relationships and reshaping how you connect, lead, and live, one episode at a time.

Welcome to The Lovers Society.

The Lovers Society

If intimacy feels complicated, distant, or far from effortless, The Lovers Society is for you.Hosted by Marissa Nelson, award-winning relationship and sex therapist, this podcast explores intimacy as it shapes every part of our lives—from how we relate to money and nourish ourselves to how environment, hormones, and daily stress influence desire and connection.Each episode invites you into real, grounded conversations that help you step out of performance and back into connection, at your own pace. This is intimacy rooted in emotional safety, self-trust, and choice, with the reminder that you are deserving of pleasure, even if you’ve felt disconnected from it for a long time.If talking about sex feels hardIf intimacy and desire feels completely goneIf you love your partner and still feel the gap…You’re not broken. And you’re not alone.You’ll hear honest, thought-provoking conversations with leading experts, paired with practical tools and exercises you can use immediately to create meaningful change. Each week brings real stories and therapist-backed guidance to help you stop going through the motions and start feeling seen, supported, and genuinely turned on by your life again.This is where intimacy moves from meh to meaningful, igniting a full-life reset through your most intimate relationships and reshaping how you connect, lead, and live, one episode at a time.Welcome to The Lovers Society.

In this episode of The Lover’s Society, we delve into how childhood attachment, trauma, and healing influence our adult relationships, intimacy, and sense of safety. Join us as Dr. Will shares his unique approach to trauma, healing, and how creativity plays a vital role in the process of reclaiming agency and connection.

Main Topics:

The impact of childhood trauma on adult intimacy and relationship patterns
The neurobiology of trauma, surrender, and healing
The role of community, identity, and agency in the healing journey
How kink and pleasure practices can facilitate trauma reclamation
Tools for cultivating safety, presence, and internal integration

In this episode:

The significance of understanding biological, emotional, and mental ages in trauma work
Practical exercises for reconnecting with desire and internal experience
The importance of storytelling and transcription in internalizing healing
The collective nature of healing and boundaries in community spaces
How internalized rules and legacy burdens shape adult behaviors and choices

Learn more about Dr. Will’s work:

Connect with the community and start reclaiming your inner healing power.

Chapters

00:00 Exploring Childhood Attachment and Trauma

01:40 Introducing Dr. Will and His Journey

04:59 Understanding Trauma in Intimacy

08:09 The Complexity of Surrender in Healing

10:53 Reparative Experiences and Neuroplasticity

14:02 The Role of Pleasure in Healing

17:01 Agency and Identity in Kink

20:03 Connection: The Key to Healing

22:56 Children, Play, and Adult Pleasure